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Judaism says: "Happiness is not a happening. Happiness is a state of mind. You can have
everything in the world and still be miserable. Or you can have relatively little and feel unbounded
joy.
"Who is rich? The one who appreciates what he has." (Talmud - Pirkei Avot 4:1)
Once you master the art of noticing, appreciating and consciously enjoying what you already have,
then you will always be happy.
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Appreciate What You Have – And Troubles Become Insignificant
You are standing on the 70th floor of the Empire State Building, gazing at the cityscape. Suddenly
a rather large man brusquely pushes past you, wrenches the window open and announces his
intention to jump.
You yell out: "Stop! Don't do it!"
The six-foot-five figure perched by the window turns to you and menacingly says, "Try to stop me
and I'll take you with me!"
"Umm... No problem, sir. Have a safe trip. Any last words?"
He says, "Let me tell you my troubles. My wife left me, my kids won't talk to me, I lost my job and
my pet turtle died. So why should I go on living?"
Suddenly you have a flash of inspiration.
"Sir, close your eyes for a minute and imagine that you are blind. No colours, no sights of children
playing, no fields of flowers, no sunset. Now imagine that suddenly there's a miracle. You open
your eyes and your vision is restored ! Are you going to jump - or will you stick around for a week
to enjoy the sights?"
"I'll stay for a week."
"But what happened to all the troubles?"
"Ah, I guess they're not so bad. I can see!"
An eyeball is worth at least five million dollars. You have two of them? You're rich.
If you really appreciate your eyesight, then the other miseries are nothing.
Yet if you take it all for granted, then nothing in life will ever truly give you joy.
Misconceptions On The Road To Happiness
Misconception #1:
"Once I know the tools for being happy, then it will work like magic."
Don't expect the results to come automatically. It is possible to intellectually understand how to
attain happiness, yet not put it into practice.
In fact, many people might actually prefer to be comfortable and unhappy, rather than endure the
discomfort of changing their habits.
Just as learning any new skill requires effort, you have to be willing to invest serious effort to
achieve real happiness.
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