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When negative feelings arise, we have two choices,
1.

To follow the habitual pattern we’ve learned since we were young,
to react and allow the negativity to consume us.

2.

Or, to interrupt the pattern we have been conditioned to follow, and
in doing so build new neural pathways that allows for alternative
possibilities.

There are essentially three ways to interrupt a behavioral pattern:


Visual - Change your thoughts.



Verbal – Change your language.



Kinesthetic – Change your physical position.

15 Ways to Overcome Anger
Some of these tools might be more effective for some of us than others.
For me, “Look Up!!” has been the most effective (thus, I’m listing it first).
I’ve also seen good results where several of these are used in
combination.

Photo: Simón Pais-Thomas

1. Look Up!!!
The fastest way to change negative feelings is by changing our physical
position right away. The easiest way to physically change is by moving
our eye position. When we are in a negative state, we are likely looking
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