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Prolonged anger, stress and holding grudges will hurt our adrenal gland
and immune system. For women, stress on the adrenal gland can affect
the reproductive organs (uterus, ovaries) causing them to exhibit
abnormal behaviors, potentially resulting in sterility.
Aren’t your physical and mental health worth more than the mental
pressure you are voluntarily piling onto yourself? Is it worth it to react
out of spiteful emotions and hurt feelings, so that we might temporarily
satisfy our pride?
Anger also clouds our judgment and we become consumed with
problems and pain. Instead of cutting ourselves loose, free from the selfinflicted pain; we make irrational, unreasonable, regretful and hurtful
decisions. In the case of divorces, the legal fees alone can drain one’s
savings, unnecessarily leaving both parties unhappy and poor. Nobody
wins!
The Fundamentals of Change
Notice how quickly we can fall into a negative state of being? A split
second, maybe. By the same reasoning it should take us the same
amount of time to shift into a resourceful state of being. The challenge
here is that we have been conditioned from a very young age to remain
in an un-resourceful state. Nobody gave us the tools to shift our state
into a positive one. Often, our parents didn’t know how, and still do not
know how.

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