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Bargaining.
"Please God. I would give anything."; "If I don't get pregnant we
will just adopt, either way it will happen."; "I know there must
be a reason this is happening."
Traditionally the bargaining stage for people facing
death can involve attempting to bargain with whatever God the
person believes in. People facing less serious trauma can bargain
or seek to negotiate a compromise. For example "Can we still be
friends?.." when facing a break-up. Bargaining rarely provides a
sustainable solution, especially if it's a matter of life or death.
Depression.
"I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "No matter what I do
it's just not going to happen."; "Why try anymore?"; "Everyone is
moving on without me."
During the fourth stage, the dying person begins to
understand the certainty of death. Because of this, the individual
may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time
crying and grieving. This process allows the dying person to
disconnect from things of love and affection. It is not
recommended to attempt to cheer up an individual who is in this
stage. It is an important time for grieving that must be processed.
Acceptance.
"It's going to be okay."; "There's nothing I can do to change it so
why stay bitter?"; "It will happen eventually."
In this last stage, individuals begin to come to terms with
their mortality, or that of a loved one, or other tragic event.
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