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help here!) The other person will feel more appreciated, and
you will likely enjoy your time together more.
6.

Remember Who You're Dealing With Seeing the best in
someone is important; however, don’t pretend the other
person’s negative traits don’t exist. Don’t tell your secrets to
a gossip, rely on a flake, or look for affection from someone
who isn’t able to give it. This is part of accepting them for
who they are.

7.

Get Support Where You Can Find It Get your needs met
from others who are able to meet your needs. Tell your
secrets to a trustworthy friend who's a good listener, or
process your feelings through journaling, for example. Rely
on people who have proven themselves to be trustworthy
and supportive, or find a good therapist if you need one.
This will help you and the other person by taking pressure
off the relationship and removing a source of conflict.

8.

Let Go Or Get Space If You Need It Know when it’s time to
distance yourself, and do so. If the other person can’t be
around you without antagonizing you, minimizing contact
may be key. If they’re continually abusive, it's best to cut ties
and let them know why. Explain what needs to happen if
there ever is to be a relationship, and let it go. (If the
offending party is a boss or co-worker, you may consider
switching jobs.)

Tips:
1. Try not to place blame on yourself or the other person for the
negative interactions. It may just be a case of your two
personalities fitting poorly.
2. Remember that you don't have to be close with everyone;
just being polite goes a long way toward getting along and
appropriately dealing with difficult people.

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