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Remember that language is more than just the spoken or written word. It is also the way words are
spoken, timing, body language, and the way silence is used.
Use the media and other communication tools to communicate with stake holders outside of the
collaboration. Some times members of the media are great additions to the collaboration/coalition.
Send letters, e-mails, agendas, notes, flyers, et. Etc. to other members of the coalition on a regular basis.
Make phone calls and when possible personal visits to other members of the coalition to build
relationships, keep people involved, and communicate.
Maintain strong and consistent communication with stake holders outside of the coalition/collaboration.
"Real listening shows respect. It creates trust. As we listen, we not only gain understanding, we also
create the environment to be understood. And when both people understand both perspectives, instead
of being on opposite sides of the table looking across at each other, we find ourselves on the same side
looking at solutions together". (Stephen R. Covey)
Motivate
Find the commonalities and common passions.
Find out what motivates the members of the coalition/collaboration and the stake holders. Remember
that what motivates you, may not motivate them. Appreciate and respect the differences.
Understanding each other's Love Languages may be helpful. Take responsibility and give credit.
Give credit for success to everyone else involved with that success. Take responsibility for mistakes,
and when they occur, failures that you have any part in.
Find and take opportunities to compliment and celebrate the success of others.
As collaboration matures, both responsibility and success will be shared more evenly.
Stick with it...Persevere.. Work.
"The only place you'll find success before work is in the dictionary". Mary B. Smith
"That which we persist in doing becomes easy to do. Not that the nature of the thing has changed, but
the power to do had increased". Heber J. Grant
Building Collaboration requires substantial and sustained effort, often without recognition or equal
distribution of responsibility.
Keep your passion alive.
Help others to find and harness their own passions.
Complete and encourage the completion of assignments, provide accountability.
Let Go, Forgive.
Be willing to "let go," forgive, and look past the shortcomings in others. When you do this, they will be
more likely to do it for you. Sometimes you have to hear before you will be heard. (This does not m