How to Coach Yourself and Others Empowering Coaching And Crisis Interventions | Page 122

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Good introductions for reflecting are:
- You feel doubly hurt, because …
- The situation is worrying you, …
- You are disappointed, …
- You feel it’s a shame, …
- You are feeling sad, …
- You were angry, because …
- You don’t dare to, …
- You are afraid, …
- You must be very fond of him.
- You feel you have failed …
- You are worried that you …
- You had the strong feeling that …
- Yet, I notice some doubt in your voice
- You don’t sound very convinced though
- And yet, you sound sad. Maybe you can tell me what
happened?
- I sense you are still angry, troubled, mixed up,
confused … maybe that’s why …
Summative Reflection
Summative Reflection involves summarizing the message in order to provide a structured, complete and
comprehensive feedback. Aside from organizing and integrating the major aspects of the dialogue, summarizing also
establishes a basis for further discussion and offers a sense of progress in the conversation.
It is required to also plan regular summaries and evaluations during which you
repeat the essence of what has been said or done
provide a clear image of the situation
locate where the other is with respect to the total journey
Logical moments for summarizing and evaluating are:
At the start and end of each session
At transiting to a new phase
At any moment that you feel a summary might be helpful to keep track of the situation or to stimulate the
individual.
Alternatively,