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This book is in B&W, not color - Print page in Grayscale for Correct view! "I" Statements Another important piece of using empowering language is using "I" statements. These are claims a person makes about themselves using the pronoun "I" rather than "you". For example, imagine I said, "You know how you sometimes don't want to get up in the morning? Having the aroma of freshly brewed coffee reach your nose can really help!" Clean CommunicationI am, in fact, telling you something about myself: "Sometimes I just don't want to get up in the morning. Having the aroma of freshly brewed coffee reach my nose can really help!" Expressed using "you" and "your", I'm implying that you should agree. However, you may never have trouble getting up in the morning, or you may not even like the aroma of coffee. Rather than assuming these things and telling you what will help you, it's much cleaner if I just claim what is true for me. Then, if you notice that resonates with you, you can offer your agreement. The value in using "I" statements is ownership. When I use "I" statements I am owning what I say as my view or reality. I am not projecting it onto "you". This facilitates my separating my issues from your issues so that I can deal with mine and don't have to take responsibility for dealing with or responding to yours. That's a win for me. How about for you? For [email protected] Property of Bookemon, do NOT distribute 111