How to Coach Yourself and Others Coaching With Meta Communication

AFTER THE FIRST “HELLO” I wonder if you recently reflected on this weird situation: to know there is no such thing as a "best pickup line a man can use” and yet thinking to yourself how to start up a conversation with that gorgeous girl that you are watching. So what do you say as an intro? - Or, in other words:     How to make a good impression? How to make her feel good and happy? How to make her talk back to you when you say something? How to find the subjects she is interested in? You know you have to be enthousiast, friendly, interested, sufficiently good looking, assertive, fun and smart… Men tend to focus on the verbal skills or tricks that will allow them to make contact. However, statistics teach that the initial – and often definitive - impression is based in the first place on appearance and body language(55%). What you say accounts only for 7% of the impact you make. How you say it, for 38%. Therefore, the first thing to do is: try to make eye contact, even if only for a fraction of a second. If, after the first contact, your target does not look back to you, you know that the battle may be lost even before it’s begun. But let’s assume she did look back. So, you decide to make your move. Contrary to what you may have been thinking, the perfect opening line is easy enough to find: it does not really matter at all. You can say almost anything you want, as long as you do it in a friendly way. If a girl is interested in you, she won't care about what you say. What does matter is that you make your move before somebody else runs away with her. How to go about it, is described in some detail in my files about flirting and dating:     succesful flirting and dating elementary guide for flirting and dating the incredible power of words. Hypnotic communication which you will find on www.slideshare.net/jaimelavie and on www.lulu.com (query= Dean Amory). 20

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