How to Coach Yourself and Others Coaching With Meta Communication | Page 11
4. Practice mind reading and prediction of the future
Using gathered information for “mind reading” or making correct assumptions is very useful to build a sensation of
rapport and will make the listener more receptive to your propositions.
Right now you may ask yourself
You probably feel something
By now you will see, understand, agree …
I see that you start to understand, …
I am so glad to hear that you feel the same way …
You will soon start feeling, you will see, you will enjoy,
We will first … and then you will know, see, feel, …
Once you have fully understood this, you will be able to …
Be careful to use vague or ambiguous phrases :
By this time, you might start to become aware of this special sensation
That (what ??) can feel so good, can’t it?
A good and safe way is to tell things by implication :
I wonder if you already realize that the main advantage …
I don’t know if you already noticed that …
By now, you may feel how the desire keeps growing
And then this sensation of … will increase more and more
You can keep feeling more …
You will feel completely satisfied
Again, we …
Once you have fully understood this, you will be able to …
Everybody knows, We all feel that …
You will feel so secure, so relaxed, so happy …
Telling the listener what he knows, feels and thinks, is not enough however: you should
link it to what he must do next :
straight links
and, also, but, …
Implicit links
while, during, after, before … you feel, are, will see…
Links which reveal necessity since you have experienced for yourself … you know
A causes B; this requires, Because X …follows Y
Since we agreed that A = B, therefore …
Avoid giving direct orders : use superpositions instead
NOT: “imagine”, or “try to imagine” - BUT: “While you imagine this, you will realize that …”
NOT: “look at this”
- BUT: “we can see that …”
… Or build silent acceptation
(which will make it more difficult for the other to disagree later)
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Yes?
Right?
You see?
Got it?