How to Coach Yourself and Others Coaching With Meta Communication | Page 11

4. Practice mind reading and prediction of the future Using gathered information for “mind reading” or making correct assumptions is very useful to build a sensation of rapport and will make the listener more receptive to your propositions.        Right now you may ask yourself You probably feel something By now you will see, understand, agree … I see that you start to understand, … I am so glad to hear that you feel the same way … You will soon start feeling, you will see, you will enjoy, We will first … and then you will know, see, feel, … Once you have fully understood this, you will be able to … Be careful to use vague or ambiguous phrases :   By this time, you might start to become aware of this special sensation That (what ??) can feel so good, can’t it? A good and safe way is to tell things by implication :           I wonder if you already realize that the main advantage … I don’t know if you already noticed that … By now, you may feel how the desire keeps growing And then this sensation of … will increase more and more You can keep feeling more … You will feel completely satisfied Again, we … Once you have fully understood this, you will be able to … Everybody knows, We all feel that … You will feel so secure, so relaxed, so happy … Telling the listener what he knows, feels and thinks, is not enough however: you should link it to what he must do next :  straight links and, also, but, …  Implicit links while, during, after, before … you feel, are, will see…  Links which reveal necessity since you have experienced for yourself … you know A causes B; this requires, Because X …follows Y Since we agreed that A = B, therefore … Avoid giving direct orders : use superpositions instead NOT: “imagine”, or “try to imagine” - BUT: “While you imagine this, you will realize that …” NOT: “look at this” - BUT: “we can see that …” … Or build silent acceptation (which will make it more difficult for the other to disagree later)     10 Yes? Right? You see? Got it?