How to Coach Yourself and Others Coaching Families | Page 63

It is possible that despite all the counselor's efforts, the wife will respond with an absolute, "No, I don't want
to tell him. He would leave me. Besides, this affair doesn't mean all that much." Typically BSFT therapy
only gets into marital issues to the extent that the marital problems are interfering with the parents' abilities
to function effectively as parents. However, the counselor has no choice but to help the wife tell her
husband about the affair. If the wife absolutely refuses, then the counselor has lost his or her bid for
leadership in the counseling process. The wife now has control over the counseling process. For that reason,
the counselor must refer the family to another counselor.
Tracking
In the example on p. 27 about the mother's powerful boyfriend, it was recommended that the counselor use
the way in which the family is organized, or interacts, with the father figure in a position of power, as a
vehicle for getting the family into treatm