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miss-step occurred means you have learned a valuable lesson. Some
of my choices may have landed me in unpleasant circumstances, but
experiencing these things certainly built my current character. I
wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for those characterbuilding situations. Mistakes are stepping stones to an evolving life.
No need for you to sink into regret or despair -- keep your chin up.
Here's How to do it:
1. Acknowledge a mistake has been made - It is easy to play the
blame game, pointing fingers at someone else or circumstances as to
why you have stumbled or why your life is difficult. Taking personal
ownership that your past actions resulted in bringing about your
current reality is the first step to moving past regrets and moving
toward a brighter future.
2. Make amends - If your past actions or words have harmed another
person an apology may be in order. Or not, apologies can be tricky.
Judge for yourself if an apology will help matters or only drudge up
old wounds better left alone. But, definitely forgive yourself!
Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. Continually berating
yourself for past actions is self-defeating. Would you kick a dog
while it was laying down? Of course not. Please don't do this to
yourself. Righting a wrong is not always feasible. If you feel badly
about a past action you've taken that cannot be righted, forgive
yourself, and let it go.
3. Do-overs - Sometimes feelings of regret arise not from our past
actions, but from our non-actions. Have you ever regretted not
taking a vacation, staying stuck in a dead-end job, not attending
college... or whatever? It may be too late to reverse those decisions,
but you still have options. Some colleges offer free classes for
seniors. You might not have the time, money, or physical endurance
to travel, but you can rent movies or attend travelogue showings
about the regions you wish to learn more about. New opportunities
are available around every corner if you just open your heart and
follow your dreams.
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