Relationship Fix Tip #6: Let Go of The Past.
If you're still upset about a fight that happened months ago or you still hold a
grudge for something small, you may be holding onto hostility and resentment
toward your man. You may even be using the past to unintentionally hurt his
feelings. But you won't have a happy and healthy relationship if you continue
to bring up the past.
If you continue bringing up small mistakes your partner has made or nitpick at
him, you're not doing what you're supposed to do: enjoying the moment with
your man. He's another human, just like you, and mistakes happen. Continuing
using his mistakes and shoving them in his face makes him feel less confident
in himself. In the end, you're just hurting him, and that hurts the relationship.
If your guy did something that you can't forgive, such as cheating, and it's
taken a toll on your health, you may want to step back from the relationship
and see why you can't forgive him. Sometimes, relationships can't go on
because trust has been completely broken and can't be repaired.
If that's the case with your relationship, evaluate if you truly want to stay with
him or you're staying with him for another reason e.g., wanting to control him
or wanting to get revenge on him for hurting you. If you stay with your man for
another reason besides being happy with him and sharing your life with him, it
may be time for you to end this chapter in your life.