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Healthy Communication
Teenagers, in their immaturity, tend to skip what is perhaps the largest part of a relationship. That being communication. What is a relationship if there is no communication? How do you even begin to understand your partner?
When getting into a relationship with someone, you should find them easy to talk to. Talking should come without effort. There should be no force to continue a conversation with your partner. A sense of comfort needs to be there and present.
Once that comfort has been established with your parnter, you need to understand how to talk to them in times of difficulty. Initially, you need to pick the right time to talk. If something is bothering you, don't pick a time during the middle of a concert or at dinner with a bunch of friends. You need to establish a time where you can be alone with all the time in the world to figure out your problem.
That time that you pick needs to be a time where you are together. You need to be face to face and near eachother. A bad form of communicaiton that teenagers often use is through text. This not only pushes you further away but text can tend to convey the wrong feelings.
A lot of couples tend to skip past this very important part of a relationship and that is honesty. The truth hurts. Everyone can admit that, but avoiding to be honest can lead to all types of tension within a relationship.
So when you are getting into a serious relationship at a younger age, you need to look past just the sex and social outings and focus on getting to know eachother and communicate and be honest with eachother.