Health For Teens May 2014 | Page 20

Amy: JEN! What are you doing? Stop bullying me and spreading rumors around. What did I ever do to you?

Jen: What! Can’t I have some fun? Who cares if I’m making fun of you or not!

Amy: I do! Stop this or else I’ll go tell the teacher about what you did to me!

Jen: What did you say! Are you trying to blackmail me? Stop being so childish.

Amy: Stop! You know what you are doing is obviously wrong so just stop! Not like you will win if I told the teachers.

Jen: I don’t care if I’m doing the right thing. I’m having fun so who cares. You will regret that decision if you go to the teachers. I will make your life even more miserable.

Problem Solved!

A scene to show you how to resolve conflicts with your friends.

In this situation Amy is struggling with problems due to Jen bullying her. She does not know how to solve this problem, both parties are just arguing over who is right and who is wrong. Obviously bullying is not the right thing to do, but by arguing both Amy and Jen are not going to get their problem fixed anytime soon. Amy is a typical teenage girl who gets really upset when she’s in a fight with friends. She wants to solve this problem but Jen refuses to. Jen is afraid that she might get in trouble if Amy tells the teacher.

Amy suggested solving their problem by seeking help from adults. Jen refused to. By compromising in this bullying situation, both can come to an agreement where both of them will be happy. If Jen stopped bullying Amy, and Amy would not go report this incident to the teachers. Both of them would be happy and no one would be hurt again. After all, it was Jen’s fault to bully Amy. She should reflect on her action whether it is glorifying God’s name. The act of bullying is due to feelings of superiority, condemnation, bitterness, or resentment. Bullying is in the peace-breaking zone where one person attacks another person. Jen should apologize and promise not to do this again. Another solution is by talking to an adult about their problem. Yes, this is not something a teen would enjoy doing, but it is the correct thing to do. By talking to an adult, they can get a better view on how they should handle their situation. Also an adult is wiser, most of the time, so by asking them for advice on situations like these would be a step towards the correct direction. Having a mediator does sometimes help. Both people do need to be willing to repair the relationship, especially Jen.

Amy and Jen used to be really good friends. One day, they fought over something and Jen started bullying Amy.