together is often so intense that the partners want to spend all their time together , and when they ’ re apart , they ’ re texting constantly and obsessively thinking about each other . Although this can be fun and exciting , the risk is that the relationship doesn ’ t last .
What can you do about it ? Be deliberate about a relation‐ ship ’ s progression . Even when you ’ re starting a new relationship , and things are going great , balance is important . Don ’ t neglect important people or aspects of your life when you get into a new partnership . Also , work on building the friendship within your new relationship . The most satisfying , long-lasting partnerships have a balance of passion and companionship . You want to ensure that you and your partner have things in common , beyond the physical chemistry .
If you follow everything on this list and still find yourself being benched or ghosted , don ’ t fret .
As stated above , people have things going on that you will never understand . A person who doesn ’ t prioritise you isn ’ t worth your time and effort , so don ’ t get stuck on them . Keep an open mind , work on yourself , and have faith that you are right where you need to be .
Kelly Campbell , Ph . D ., is a Professor of Psychology at California State University , San Bernardino . Her research examines instant connections among friends and romantic partners , how being in love helps and / or hinders performance across domains ( e . g ., athletics , creativity ), infidelity , and cat-fishing ( online romantic deception ).
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