Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume 8, issue-2, 1 August 2023 | Page 26

1 . No contact or limited contact
2 . Set boundaries
3 . Seek support and validation
4 . Focus on self-care

1 . No contact or limited contact

Establishing no contact with the narcissist , if possible , is a vital step in the healing process . This means cutting off all communication , including texts , calls , and social media interactions . Breaking up with a narcissist might trigger attempts to reel you back in through love bombing , manipulation , or promises of change . Maintaining no contact shields you from their attempts to regain control over your emotions and allows you to focus on your own well-being . If complete no contact is not feasible due to shared responsibilities like co-parenting or work , keep interactions to a minimum and strictly business-related . Avoid engaging in emotional discussions or revisiting past issues , as this may only prolong the healing process .

2 . Set boundaries

Reinforce your boundaries and communicate them assertively to the narcissist . Narcissists often disregard boundaries and may try to test your resolve . Be prepared for pushback , guilt trips , or attempts to make you doubt your decisions . Stay firm in enforcing your boundaries to protect yourself from being drawn back into an unhealthy dynamic . Remember that prioritising your emotional well-being is crucial .

3 . Seek support and validation

Breaking up with a narcissist can leave you feeling emotionally drained and isolated . Reach out to friends , family , or support groups where you can share your experiences and feelings . Talking to others who understand the dynamics of narcissistic relationships can provide validation and help you process your emotions . Seek professional therapy or counselling to work through the trauma of the relationship and gain tools to build resilience .

4 . Focus on self-care

Prioritise self-care during this period of recovery . Engage in activities that bring you joy , relaxation , and fulfilment . Exercise regularly to release stress and improve your mood . Practice mindfulness or meditation to ground yourself and manage anxiety . Consider journaling to express and process your emotions . Allow yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship and the idealised version of the narcissistic partner you may have once believed in .