Regardless , we all must be responsible for our problems and solutions . Giving advice when it isn ’ t wanted tends to lead to resentment .
4 . You fix their problems without invitation What is a saviour complex if not interfering ? Of course , it ’ s a wonderful trait to want to help people , but yes , it can become toxic . We all do better in life when we can learn to help ourselves . All of us thrive when we feel empowered and independent . On the flip side , if you have a saviour complex , you ’ re trying to fill a deep internal need that ’ s more about numbing your pain than serving the other person .
5 . You believe you can change something about them Deep down , a saviour mentality means you want to change your partner . We all have faults , but people in healthy relationships accept each other ’ s faults . They work together as a team despite their faults .
6 . You forget your needs Are you still asking yourself , “ do I have a saviour complex ”? In that case , review how you balance self-care versus looking after your partner . Do you often cancel your own time to fix something for them ?
7 . Communication becomes an interrogation People with saviour syndrome tend to ask questions in a way that can feel aggressive . Next time you ask questions , try to observe how your partner feels . Are they answering with as few words as possible such that they let you make their decisions ?
8 . People drive your moods People with a saviour complex in relationships often find that they ’ re only happy when helping their partner . So , their mood is dramatically impacted when something bad happens to their partner . Of course , we all feel bad when our loved ones get into trouble . Nevertheless , you don ’ t take on the blame or the responsibility in a healthy relationship .
9 . Deep down , you feel used and empty This one might seem tough to accept , but if you truly observe your feelings , you ’ ll hear that little nagging voice telling you something isn ’ t right . A saviour tends to put their self-worth on how much they help people and so take on too much responsibility for their partner .