ACCEPTANCE
Most important aspect Acceptance in life , it doesn ’ t mean we have to take all kind of bullshit in the name of acceptance . It means take stock of the situation you are in and accept all its aspect in a matter of fact way for example : if a person is abusive we should accept that this is how this person is , now to protect ourselves we can make decision without being confused . If we don ’ t accept that , person is abusive we ’ ll always be confused coz when that person will behave nicely we ’ ll again go back in our comfort zone and give that person permission to hurt us .
But once we ’ ll accept that this person is abusive and will hurt us again and again we can take a different direction and distance ourselves or we can be indifferent to that person , means according to our situations we can take action and bring relief in our life . So acceptance is very important to take decision for our peace of mind .
It ’ s easier said than done … to accept things in black and white is not easy , so from where this acceptance naturally comes ?? Answer is knowledge ; this knowledge of acceptance has many layers ( we will take the example of abusive person )–
1 . We need to remember since beginning till now , how this person is hurting we ’ ll see a pattern , in some cases it might be getting better as person is getting better , in some it gets worst and in other cases it remains same all the time . So according to these 3 cases we decide level of trouble we are into . And accept this is how this person is .
2 . What all we did to change our situation because of that person … talked to him , tried it nicely , tried other methods like self introspection ( that is needed if we see that more than one person is behaving in the similar method ). Is it possible that I trigger something ? It could be over forgiving nature , not setting right boundaries and in sometimes our own sense of entitlement ( yes this too can be a reason ) and what is the impact of these methods ?
If there is no change at all or negative changes then we have to accept no matter what we do nothing is working . Once we will accept this we will stop wasting our energy , time and money on this .