Bit by bit , like slowly drying concrete encasing the soul , the desire to be adored , universally recognized , and admired can come to entirely usurp our aspirational drives to do the best job we possibly can for its own sake .
So it can certainly be useful to discuss with clients what would actually need to happen for their dreams to actualize .
A weak link in the chain of events
I recall one client who had what some might call ' wild ' ambitions , untroubled by any obvious aptitude or practical intention !
Using hypnosis , I helped him inhabit his future desired goal , encouraging him to fully experience his desired achievements in the future . From this future , I suggested he look back at all the steps he had taken in order to reach his ' current ' worldwide success . I then asked him to tell me the steps he ' d taken .
He replied slowly , deep in trance . " The first step was when I was walking down the street and I was discovered by a famous film director and they said they wanted me in their movie . I was cast in the main role ..."
He was silent for a while and then added another ' step ' to his success .
" After that film , offers flooded in . But then I won the lottery ," he told me , beaming . " I was able to produce all the movies I wanted and have total artistic control ."
Now , we could argue , I think , that those weren ' t really steps under his control !