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नाहं प्रकाशः सवर्स्य योगमायासमावृतः । मूढोऽयं नािभजानाित लोको मामजमव्ययम् �25�
I am not manifested to everyone , being veiled by my divine Yogmaya energy . Hence , those without knowledge , do not know , that I am without birth and changeless . ( Srimadbhagvat Geeta : Chapter 7 Verse 25 )
For someone who is want to get married and dating for the same how important it is to discuss past relationships with their partner up front ?
Answer :
Here the important point is why do we need to know somebody ’ s relationship past ? What purpose it serves ?
As a therapist , When we sit for premarital counselling We want past relationship ’ s record to understand anybody ’ s ideas and expectations in relationships as well as disappointments .
It gives a clear picture of any kind of pattern in relationships , could be break ups or the kind of person they attract . it gives a very good insight as to what are the areas they need to work upon in order to have a healthy relationship with a good person , in future , ( more so how can they attract that good person through inner healing- this is therapist ’ s perspective )
If this is the purpose then it ’ s a good idea . But if it is to be done in the name of being honest with each other , then lets understand certain points here . 1 Your or this person ’ s past has happened before you met each other . 2 You have no control on past . 3 you are not the person now , you were then - we all become different , with time and experiences sometimes knowingly , sometimes unknowingly .
4 Other person always see things in his or her own perspective which means whats ’ their experiences , impressions of life and how they see things . So how you see your past how they will perceive it can be a different thing .