“ right ,” or because I believe it is what makes an honorable and respectable person .
As you ’ ve probably read before ; expectations , desires and beliefs collectively form some of the most painful mental traps that inhabit our minds , together with assumptions , comparisons , and ideals .
Therefore , the real issue here is attaching to trust and letting that attachment to those expectations , desires and beliefs cut into you .
The problem here isn ’ t having or not having trust in others , it is your continuous clinging to the expectations , desires and beliefs that have brought you pain in the past .
I Have Trust Issues ... Is That a Bad Thing ?
Mistrusting people in and of itself is not a bad thing . Why ? Because mistrust is a form of intelligence – but it isn ’ t always . Let me give you a few examples :
Would it be wise to trust a thief with your credit card ? Would it be wise to trust a gossipy friend with your marital secrets ? Would it be wise to entrust your heart to an abusive alcoholic ? Would it be wise to trust that no one will break into your house if you leave it unlocked ?
Mistrust helps us to avoid distasteful and even potentially dangerous situations , and it helps us to make smart decisions about our lives . Mistrust helps us to make healthy decisions about who to befriend and who not to , who to romantically partner with and who not to , where to go and where not to go , what to do and what not to do .
However , there is a point when mistrust turns into its less intelligent counterpart : trust issues . Why is having a trust issue unintelligent ? Because it builds a wall around your heart and prevents you from opening up to any kind of person , including yourself . Having a trust issue means that you ignore the proof that someone is trustworthy , you ignore your need to connect with others , and therefore you end up isolating yourself .