Healing and Hypnotherapy Volume 5, Issue -4, 1 October 2020 | Page 19

motivate you and show you that there is hope and you can connect with others like you . It will just take some time and effort .
General Advice :
Once you ’ ve reconnected with your inner source of power ( the inner wolf ), you ’ ll find it easier to put the following general pieces of advice in action . These tips will help you move through your feelings of loneliness :
3 . Take baby steps
If you ’ re alone and isolated , start small . Throwing yourself into the deep end with other people may be too overwhelming – which could lead to self-isolation . In order to take baby steps , carry out your daily tasks in places where there are people . If you need to walk your dog , for instance , go to the local dog park where other dog owners might be . If you need to do groceries , make small talk with the shop assistants . If you need to exercise more , consider signing up to the local gym . You get the picture .
4 . Replace unkind thoughts and repeat gentle ones
When we feel alone , it ’ s easy to start berating and criticising ourselves . We may think that we ’ re “ losers ,” “ recluses ,” “ broken ,” “ stunted ,” “ will never have friends ,” etc . If you start feeling horrible about yourself and slip into self loathing , try to find the underlying thought . Then , replace it with something kinder like “ I am a caring and interesting person , and I deserve friends ” “ I can do this ,” “ It ’ s okay to take socialising slowly ,” or “ I love myself no matter what .” At first , you may feel a bit ridiculous , but when you keep affirming the same gentle thought , you are slowly rewiring your brain .
One of the most powerful ways to use affirmations is through something called mirror work . To practice mirror work , find a mirror in your house , and ensure you have a bit of privacy . As you stand in front of the mirror , take a few conscious breaths and try to relax your body a bit . Gaze into