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continued from page 26 Where litigation often focuses on whether and how to limit the children’s exposure to the suffering parent, a collaborative divorce can result in a nuanced plan that addresses the mental illness directly and maximizes both parents’ involvement in their children’s lives while protecting the children. Instead of hiring a mental health expert to “attack” the suffering party’s parenting, the team can, for example: • Retain substance abuse experts to provide treatment recommendations; • Use parenting coaches to assist both parents with conflict resolution; and/or, • Involve treatment providers who obtain information from the team and suggest approaches to resolution that will support, rather than erode, treatment progress. Most importantly, at the end of the collaborative process, the parents will not have spent months or years attacking and blaming each other in a public forum. Instead, they will have worked together to address the mental illness that likely contributed to their divorce in the first place. And, in doing so, they will hopefully find a way to move beyond their past problems and to create an environment where they can co-parent their children as a family. n Collaborative Section Luncheon on september 25, the collaborative section held its first luncheon of the year on the topic of subjective issues in collaborative divorce. the speakers Michael lundy with older lundy & alvarez and anthony phillips, cpa with cBiz covered several topics, including when to discuss subjective issues and examples of subjective issues; the role of the law and case law; advising the client; discussing past (litigation) experiences; and their personal perspective. Breslau J, Miller E, Jin R, et al., A multinational study of mental disorders, marriage, and divorce. 124 Acta Psychiatr Scand 474-486 (2011). 1 Author: Jessica Felix - Felix, Felix & Baseman NOV - DEC 2019 | HCBA LAWYER 27