HCBA Lawyer Magazine Vol. 30, No. 2 | Page 28

MEntal illnEss in collaBorativE divorcE: a BEttEr option Collaborative law Section Chairs:­Shannon­Ciesluk­–­CBIZ,­LMHM­and­Jessica­Felix­–­Felix,­Felix­&­Baseman,­LLC Mental illness in a marriage increases the risk of divorce A ccording to a 2011 multi-national study, the existence of mental illness in a marriage increases the risk of divorce by 12 percent, with major depression, specific phobias, alcohol abuse and PTSD identified as being the largest contributors to the increased divorce rate. 1 I have always believed that the family law courts are ill-equipped to address mental illness, especially when the divorcing family has children. Judges, very simply, are not mental health experts. Even when mental health experts are brought into the proceedings — whether as guardians ad litem, social investigators, timesharing 26 by 12 percent. evaluators, substance abuse evaluators or treatment providers — they are usually not called to offer treatment recommendations for the party suffering from mental illness. Instead, they are asked to offer opinions on the harm the mental illness may cause and the best way to protect the children from the struggling parent. At the same time, competing experts may be called to present evidence that the mental illness is not a problem, even when it is. This approach fails to address the core problem, and in very few instances do the children or the other spouse completely escape exposure to the untreated mental illness. The effects of the mental illness continue long after the divorce case concludes. Collaborative divorce, with its focus on problem solving, provides options to families affected by mental illness. The collaborative process allows for flexible approaches and solutions tailored to give these families hope for a future filled with less chaos, anger and struggle. If both parties are committed to the process and the suffering party can acknowledge needing assistance, then the team can develop a plan that addresses the family’s unique concerns to everyone’s benefit. continued on page 27 NOV - DEC 2019 | HCBA LAWYER