Harmony in Marriage
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Even if you do not like staying at home, you have to say
to her, “I do not like being away from you.” Only then will you
be able attain liberation. Now that you have met Dada, you will
definitely attain liberation.
Questioner : Do you say that to Hiraba?
Dadashri : Yes, I say that to Hiraba, even now.
Even at my age I say to Hiraba, “I do not like it when
I am away from you.” Now she probably would be thinking to
herself, “I like it, why does he not like it?” When you speak in
this manner, then your home life will be full of harmony. Pour
some cream on it, enrich your life with your wife, otherwise it
will be too dry. Pour in some beautiful feelings. Here she
(Hiraba) is sitting, as I speak. When she asks me if she is in my
thoughts, I tell her, “Yes, very much. All other people come to
my mind, so why would you And really, she is in my thoughts.
Our life is ideal. Hiraba will even tell me to come home
early.
When can one be said to have fulfilled the role of a
husband? It is when the wife develops a constant reverence for
him. What should a husband be like? He should never let any
difficulties befall upon his wife or his children. And what should
the wife be like? Such, that she never causes problems for him.
She should constantly live with this awareness.
[17] QUARRELS WITH WIFE
When husband and wife are fighting verbally, it is
generally superficial. They do not harbour any vengeance from
within. If you were to interfere and come in between, they will
get their work done but eventually they will always stick
together. Fights that do not result in separation are merely
parrot talks and parrot fights. I would instantly recognize that