Harmony in Marriage
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is. It is a different matter if you have a permanent relationship
with her, but after this one life, she will be away somewhere,
with someone else. You both have different timings of death,
you both have different karma, nothing can be given or taken
and nothing can be changed. Where she will go from here, who
knows? You may straighten her up and she will end up going
to someone else in the next life.
Only he who has improved himself can improve others.
Prakruti cannot change, nor can it be controlled by threats. It
is because of all such threats that these worldly problems
continue. Prakruti worsens with threats.
If you are really concerned about improving your spouse,
do not quarrel or create conflicts with her. Some hard-headed
person will come along for her improvement.
How can you destroy someone who is under your
protection? Your highest aim should be to protect her even if
she is at fault. See how these Pakistani prisoners are protected,
despite being prisoners here? Whereas this is your wife, is she
not your own? Outside the home, men become cowards, but at
home they fight.
[9] ADJUST EVERYWHERE THROUGH COMMON
SENSE
There is no difference between colliding into a wall and
arguing over a difference of opinion with someone. It is
essentially the same thing. A person bumps into a wall because
he cannot see and a person gets into conflict because he cannot
see. One cannot see what lies ahead of him, and the other
cannot see a solution ahead of him, so he gets into arguments.
All these enemies of anger, pride, attachment, and greed arise
because of our inability to see what lies ahead. This is how we
should understand everything. It is not the fault of the wall; it is