Harmony in Marriage
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[7] OVERHEATED RADIATOR OF A CAR
If sometimes the husband comes home late because of
some unavoidable circumstances, the wife will comment, “Huh!
Why did you come home so late?” Does she not realize that he
knows he is late? He is already feeling uncomfortable about
being late and then on top of that she has to nag him about it.
The poor man! Talking this way is meaningless. Do you
understand all this? So if he comes home late some day, then
you have to see what kind of a mood he is in. If he is not in
a good mood, give him a nice cup of tea and put him in a good
mood before he sits down to dinner. Don’t you offer a cup of
tea to a policeman, if he comes to your house, even if you are
not in a good mood? This is your own husband, shouldn’t you
please him? He is your own so you have to make him happy.
Many of you know what happens when a car gets overheated.
Do we hit it with a stick or do we come up with ways to cool
the radiator? Similarly you have to cool the ‘radiator’; you have
to turn on the fan. Can you not do that?
Questioner : How can I stop him from drinking so much
brandy?
Dadashri : When he sees love in your home he will stop
everything. He is ready to stop anything for love. When he does
not see love at home, he falls in love with the brandy. He will
fall in love with something or other. He will wander around on
the beach all day. You foolish man, what are you are going to
find on the beach, go home, why don’t you? But he will say,
“But I don’t like it at home.”
[8] SHOULD YOU IMPROVE OTHERS OR
YOURSELF?
All these relationships are relative and temporary. Many
husbands become so obsessed in trying to improve their wives,