Harmony in Marriage
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suffering. With your wife, you have a partnership, not an
ownership.
Questioner : What about the wife who becomes
bossy?
Dadashri : That doesn’t matter. She cooks good meals
and feeds you. You have to say to her, “Oh my! You cook such
wonderful meals for me!” That will please her and then she will
calm down. You don’t have to be afraid of her. When will she
become your superior, when she grows a moustache? Is she
ever likely to grow one?
Besides you only have one lifetime worth of accounts to
settle. That account is not going to increase. So why not live in
a peaceful manner?
Hindus, by nature, are volatile and that is why it is said
that Hindus go through life, clashing with others. Muslims on the
other hand, are very insightful; they conduct their fighting
outside their homes, but at home they do not fight with their
wives. Nowadays, we see the Muslims behaving like the
Hindus, because they have close contact with them. But
compared to the Hindus, I find them wiser in these matters.
Some Muslims even pamper their wives by pushing them
lovingly as they sit on the swings.
Questioner : Dada, why don’t you tell us more about
that incident of that Muslim gentleman and the swing?
Dadashri : Yes. One day I had gone to visit a Muslim
friend. We were sitting on chairs and his wife was sitting on a
swing. He got up and started to push the swing for his wife, so
I inquired, “Does she not take advantage of you if you pamper
her in this way?” He replied, “What advantage is she going to
take? She does not have any weapons or anything of that sort!”
I replied back, “Our Hindu men would never do this because