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Harmony in Marriage
habit. However, these ladies are no angels either. Nowadays,
family life is synonymous to the cold war between America and
Russia; it has become “America versus Russia”. That is why I
make you understand how to live like a family. These conflicts
go on in every household.
If the food is not to your liking, can you not refrain from
making a comment? If there is too much salt in the kadhee, can
you not refrain from saying anything? Don’t you think she will
realize it herself? Is it necessary for you to comment about it?
And even when you have guests for dinner, you don’t let them
dine peacefully. Now why should you do such a thing? When
she tastes the food herself, she will find out, without you
blowing your horn.
Questioner : But if the khadee is salty, then you have to
say it is salty.
Dadashri : Then your life too, will become salty. You are
insulting her by telling her it is too salty. That is not being a
family.
Questioner : You can say it to your own people, but
you cannot say it to others, can you?
Dadashri : So you can abuse your own?
Questioner : If you tell her, she would be sure do a
better job the next time.
Dadashri : Whether she does a good job or not, such
comments are not needed. Why do such things happen? It is
neither under the control of the maker nor is it under the control
of the person who comments on the food. Under whose control
is all this? I know the cause behind everything.
Have you become a little wiser? You will be, won’t you?
You have to become absolutely wise. Your wife should say, “I