Harmony in Marriage
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So on that day ‘mine’ and ‘yours’ took place. The
situation went so far, that she used the words, “Your uncle’s
son,” rather than “Our nephew.” I realized that I had made a
major mistake. That day I saw that I was about to take a fall,
so I immediately corrected myself. I lied. It is better to do that,
than to create discord. I turned the situation around quickly and
completely. I told her, “I did not mean to say that! I am trying
to say something else. There is a little misunderstanding on your
part. I am not saying that.” Then when she asked me what I
was trying to say, I replied, “Give her the silverware in addition
to five hundred rupees. She could use the money!” In turn she
replied, “You are so naive, how can you give so much?” At that
point, I realized I had won over the situation. So then I told her,
“You can give whatever you want to. All four of your nieces are
like our own daughters.” At that point she became content!
“You are truly divine,” she said.
You see I fixed the damage. I knew that if I had said five
hundred rupees, she wa s not likely to give that much. I passed
on the responsibility to her. I knew her nature. If I gave her five
hundred rupees, she would give only three hundred. So tell me
why would I have a problem in giving her the authority?
[4] NAGGING AT MEAL-TIMES
Why do you interfere in household matters? Don’t
people make mistakes? Who is likely to make mistakes, those
who work or those who do not do anything?
Questioner : The ones who work.
Dadashri : So do not point out any mistakes in her
cooking. If the kadhee (soup dish made from yoghurt) is too
salty, you don’t have to comment on it. Put aside what you do
not like and eat the rest. Men have a habit of pointing out their
wives mistakes and telling them off. Men have developed that