14
Harmony in Marriage
Questioner : But discord happens at home. Is it not part
of life?
Dadashri : Our people fight every day and then they
say, “This is what happens in a family.” You fools! Such an
attitude hinders progress. Why not investigate it? Why do such
things happen? Why do you speak the way you do? Why do
things the way they do? You have to investigate this.
Whenever you have discord in the home, what remedy
do you use? Do you keep a bottle of medicine?
Questioner : There is no medicine for differences of
opinions between a husband and a wife.
Dadashri : Eh? What are you saying? You are saying
that you sit silently in one room, while she remains silent in
another room. Do you go to sleep not speaking to each other?
Do you not apply medication when you get hurt? How do you
expect the wound to heal if you do not apply the medication?
Explain to me how a wound can heal without being treated with
medicine. That wound will not heal by the morning. Similarly,
your wife will sulk as she serves you a cup of tea the next
morning. Even you will find that the wound has not healed from
the previous night. Does this happen or not? All this talk is not
beyond anyone’s experience. We are all the same! So why do
you behave in a manner that does not let the wounds heal?
Unfortunately, day in and day out, those wounds remain.
The gashes will not go away, they will be left behind. Therefore
you should try to prevent these wounds from occurring. If you
hurt her now, then in your old age, your wife will do the same
to you. At the moment she will not say anything, she will think
in her mind “He is very strong, so let him be.” Later on
however, when the time comes, she will take revenge.
Therefore, you must conduct your interactions in such a manner