10 Harmony in Marriage
beyond your control. If she starts quarrelling, just go to bed. After a while, she too will go to sleep. But what if you argue back?
Why don’ t you make a decision not to quarrel for at least three days and see what happens. What is wrong with experimenting? Some people go on a fast for three days to improve their health, don’ t they? In the same way, try not to quarrel. Everyone at home should sit down together and decide,“ I liked what Dada said, so from this moment on, we will not allow any quarrels to take place.” Then just see what happens.
Questioner: Here, in America, even the women go out to work, so they feel a sense of power, and this leads to an increase in conflicts between husband and wife.
Dadashri: It is good if the women become a little powerful. We should take that positively; we should think it is good because now the‘ cart’ will run better. Is it better to have weak bullocks pulling the cart or powerful ones?
Questioner: If the power is used properly, then it is fine, but if that power were to be misused, then the cart would run poorly.
Dadashri: If there is no one to accept the effect of her power, then it will just bounce against the wall. If she uses that power and it does not perturb you, then all her power will bounce off the wall and come back to her. It will hurt her.
Questioner: Are you trying to tell us that we shouldn’ t listen to what they are saying?
Dadashri: Do listen. Listen to everything very carefully. It is beneficial for you to listen to everything, but if her power causes conflicts, then remain silent. You should just observe the