Harmony In Marriage
(Ideal interactions between husband and wife,
according to Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan)
[1] ONE FAMILY
When does one enjoy life? When the whole day passes
without any stress or worries. How can one enjoy life when
there are conflicts at home? Conflicts are unacceptable,
especially at home. Conflicts may arise with neighbors and
others, but why at home? At home one should live life as a
family. What is family life? In family life, love should prevail and
be present at all times. Where is the family life nowadays? The
husband starts complaining about a meal that is not to his liking.
Underdeveloped people! Developed people would set aside
what they do not like, and eat the rest. Can this not be done?
That is a family life. Go quarrel outside. What does “my family”
mean? It should mean, “We do not have any conflicts.” You
should adjust. You should know how to adjust within your
family. Adjust everywhere.
Do you have the knowledge of what a functional family
is? Although we Indians live as a family, we lack the knowledge
of how to live as ‘an ideal family’. In foreign countries, people
do not understand the concept of ‘ideal family’. In the Western
culture, when James turns twenty, his parents, William and
Mary will tell him, “You must now be independent so that we
can live our own lives!” They have not grasped the concept of