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of his lust for sex. Even if she has no meritorious qualities, she
believes she is special because men will encourage her and
compliment her for their own desires. Why does she believe
this? She believes this because this is what men have
persistently been telling her. It is not something that she will
come to believe on her own, but because the men are telling her
over and over again, she thinks it must be true. If you were to
tell a woman she is very nice and that no other woman is
comparable to her, she will believe you, even if she is ugly. If
you tell her she is very beautiful, then she will believe herself to
be beautiful. Men have kept women as women. All along in this
game, the women in their mind believe they are making fools of
men. In this way, men get their lust satisfied after which, they
leave them.
Questioner : It is not written that a woman will remain
a woman for many lives to come. Women do not know this fact
and that is why they do not look for a solution.
Dadashri : If the problem is solved, then a woman is
actually a man. Unfortunately, these women do not know the
root cause. Furthermore, they enjoy their role as women. They
take pleasure in being women and that is why they remain as
one and nobody knows the way out, so no one can show them
the way out. Only the women, who were satis, knew the way
out. A sati would never even think about another man except
her husband, even if her husband were to die immediately after
their marriage or if he were to run away. She would believe her
husband to be the only man for her. Deceit in such women
would melt away.
If a woman becomes like a sati, her deceitful tendencies
will begin to disappear. Those prominent satis (of the past)
were born as satis because they were not tainted from their
past lives. Whereas for you, there are stains from the past life
and so the next time you will be born a man. However, having