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for making someone comply with your own expectations? It is
very harmful.
Questioner : If it benefits the family, then what is wrong
with it?
Dadashri : No. One is never able to do any good with
this approach. Those women, who do things only according to
their expectations, never do any good for their family. The
family only benefits if things happen according to everyone’s
expectations. It only happens if no one is hurt in the process.
Those who go around making everyone do things according to
their own expectations, are doing great damage to their family.
This is the primary cause of conflicts and quarrels. If things do
not go according to her expectations, then she sits around
sulking and she will not eat. Who can she beat up? So she sits
there shouting. Then the next day she will employ deceit. What
kind of a woman is that? What would happen if you did not get
your way? You ladies should not insist on these things. You
need to become broadminded and big-hearted.
Questioner : Women soften their husbands through their
tears and even if they are wrong, they will insist they are right.
What do you have to say regarding this matter?
Dadashri : That is very true. She will have to pay for her
wrongdoing. Furthermore, she loses credibility by acting this
way. She will lose the trust of her husband.
I asked a group of ladies, “Tell me whose husband is
naïve? Raise your hand.” All the ladies who raised their hands,
told me in confidence, “My husband is naive, totally naive.” This
statement in itself shows that these women play with their
husbands as if they were toys. It looks bad to expose this
matter in public. Does it not look bad? One cannot say
everything openly. If I ask the ladies confidentially, “Is your