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how nicely he talks, and how wonderful his conduct is. Do you
see anyone around you with this kind of a reputation? Do you
see people with such fragrance around you?
Questioner : Rarely do some people emit such a
fragrance.
Dadashri : Perhaps some people may, but by how
much? If you ask the people in his home, they will say he stinks.
He may have a fragrance outside but at home they will say,
“Don’t even talk about him.” That is not called fragrance.
Life should be spent helping others. Does the incense
stick enjoy its own fragrance when it is burning?
This world is a museum, what are the requirements of this
museum? When you enter the museum, you are free to enjoy
and do as you please within the rules while inside, but once you
leave you are to leave all of its belongings behind. Such is the
case with this world. You are not to take anything away. Do not
fight. Do not create attachment or abhorrence with anyone.
People, however, enter and get married. You fool! Why did you
get married? You got married because you developed an
attachment. On your way out, this will become a problem. Then
he will complain, “I am bound.” It is still not a problem if you
go inside and follow the rules. You can eat, drink and enjoy. If
you happen to get married tell your wife that it is a museum; you
should not get attached or develop any ill feelings towards each
other. As long as it is convenient, have fun but in the end you
should leave without any attachments, positive or negative. You
should not have any negative feelings or abhorrence toward her
even if she goes out with another man. This is what this museum
of life is like. Do whatever you want to, but now it is too late to
get rid of this museum. Whatever has happened so far, so be it.
We are born in a country of high morals. Therefore, marriage and
everything else must be as it was meant to be, orderly and just.