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decides that he will never marry again and yet he takes another
desperate risk.
Questioner : I was telling her that ninety-nine percent of
married couples are incompatible with each other.
Dadashri : Incompatibility amongst a couple in this era
can work in two ways. It either elevates them spiritually or it
will take them all the way down to lower life forms.
Compatibility between couples can stagnate them both spiritually.
It may even hurt them spiritually. An incompatible couple can
make spiritual progress if they both use Gnan to prevent
clashes.
Questioner : Under what circumstances is divorce
justified?
Dadashri : These darn divorces are things that have just
come about. Previously there was no such thing as a divorce.
Questioner : But nowadays they take place, so under
which circumstances should one get a divorce?
Dadashri : If there is no possibility of harmony, then it
is better to separate. If it is impossible to adjust, then it is better
to separate. Otherwise, I say one thing only, “Adjust
everywhere.” Don’t try to multiply things between the two of
you by saying, “He’s like this,” and “She’s like that.”
Questioner : Are the divorces that take place in the
west, when couples do not get along, considered bad?
Dadashri : What is the meaning of a divorce anyway?
Are these people cups and saucers? When you cannot separate
even a cup and saucer, how can you separate a man and a
woman? It may be acceptable for the Americans, but you are
an Indian. Once there used to be a vow of one wife, one
husband. The kind of thinking, which prevailed, was that other