That's ok,
with me !
Well, you can actually say the following to express how you feel, and make your point, and get what you want in the end !
Here's how :
" Honey, could you get me that Italitan Cook book which your friend got us ? "
He is going to ask why.
" I am looking for a new meal that does not contain any carrots . "
Now that will surely ring a bell . He will say something like:
" Oh, I knew I forgot something, I am so sorry ! I'll tell you what, I'll get the carrots tonght when I come back from the jym. "
Here's a third example :
Your boss at work asks you to go out on your day off to a school trip with the eight grade students.
You've been trying to get with an old friend for weeks now, and this week is the only suitable time for both of you to get together.
What would you do? let's make a long story short, and teach your boss how to make arrangements several weeks before she plans to involve you in anything .
" who's coming too? "
she will say : " well, actually I tought I begin with you first, and then go ask the rest of the teachers. " Aha, she begins with you, probably because you have a reputation of saying yes to ANYTHING !
" I'm sure I 'm going to love to, if you inform me a week before next time ! I hope the girls have a great time with who ever is going to go , good luck !"
It is really not difficult to state your true feelings, if you put it in such a clever, precise way.
In time, the people you deal with will start to treat you the way you like to be treated, but that would be only because you showed them how you really feel about things from the inside.
The truth doesn't need to hurt .