DO YOU LIE
when it comes to exposing true feelings ?
Believe it or not, people do prefer to know how you really feel about something, so let's put aside the negative aspect of honesty, and go deeper into the positive side .
As much as it might appear to you that most
people you deal with really want to hear what they would love you to say , not how you really feel about something,
however, in reality , adding the component of honesty is actually good for everyone!
Reality bites. Perhaps you've tried it before, telling people how you really feel about something, but you were met with disapproval. How about this ? I teach you an amazing way to say how you really feel without being rejected or ignored or even acused of being selfish or insensitive ! Now you are wondering if such a thing could exist at all . Don't worry , relax, because there actually is !
Let's take an example: Your mom calls you in the morning and says she wants to drop by today , and you start thinking that that would be a really bad idea because you know that your friend is coming over today, and she and your mom do not get along, and you are expecting that important phone call from
the school where you had the job interview a week ago, and yet you do not want to inform your mother about it yet, because how knows what is really going to happen.
So, what would you do? would you find it very hard to ask your mom not to come , and end up having to face the inevitable?
Or would you be honest and tell your mom that you have people coming over ? Or perhaps you would lie and say that you are actually going out today, and you won't be home anyway ?
How about this : " Oh ,mom, I was just going to ask you if you could drop by tomorrow to help me with ...."
Or how about : " I am cooking your favorite meal tomorrow , and I was thinking about eating out in the garden, while you prepare your famous Lemonade !! "
So you see, you need not always say what you really think, and still have things go your way.
Let's take another example:
Your husband comes home after a hard day at work, and
he places the grocery shopping on the kitchen table. And as you start to empty the bags , you notice that he forgot to bring the carrots which you will be needing for tomorrow's dinner. so, what are your options?
Accuse him of always forgetting to get you the specfic things which you ask for, and start an argument? Or swallow your disappiotment and take it out on the kids? or simply change plans to avoid the whole issue?