The Guru and the Disciple 13
the doodhpaak but I developed an aversion for it. From that moment onwards, I would get nervous at the sight of doodhpaak. After that whenever they made doodhpaak at home, I would tell my mother,‘ I do not like this sweet dish, so what will you give me instead?’ My mother would reply,‘ Dear son, there is a millet paste and if you eat ghee and molasses I will give you that,’ to which I said,‘ I don’ t want any ghee or molasses.’ I would not eat until she gave me honey. Then my mother would explain to me,“ When you go to your in-laws, they will make comments like,‘ Has his mother never fed him doodhpaak?’ If they serve doodhpaak and you do not eat it, it will look bad. So why not start eating a little at a time?” She tried to coax me in many ways, but nothing changed. The aversion that I developed took hold within. That is how this aversion towards the guru has taken hold.
Questioner: But why is there repulsion for the guru?
Dadashri: It is because he had some dispute with the guru in the past life and that results in repulsion in this life. So many different kinds of repulsions are involved. Many people do not have repulsion for gurus but have repulsion for God. Therefore, this is how people reject gurus. Just as I developed an aversion to doodhpaak due to an unrelated cause of vomiting, people develop an aversion to gurus.
Those who claim that one can do without a guru, are contradicting the entire world. This is because they are trying to perpetuate their mistake onto others. What do you think of this discussion?
Questioner: It is true.
Dadashri: If you have a clash with your guru, you may feel it is not worth having a guru. Now if the guru has hurt you, then you may not want to take a new guru. You cannot force your experience on others. If I had a bitter experience with a guru, I should not go around telling everyone that they should not make