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The Guru and the Disciple
The guru should be healthy and handsome. People will get
tired if he is not attractive. They will say, ‘Why did we end up
sitting here with him? The other guru was better looking.’ Make
him a guru only if you are not going to compare him with anyone
else. Be careful when you make someone your guru, otherwise,
there is no need to make a guru simply for the sake of having one.
He should not have inclination (spruha) and he should not
be completely without inclination (nispruha). Would he have any
inclination (spruha) if he were to be completely without inclination
(nispruha)? Yes. He should be without inclination in matters
concerning the non-Self or worldly matters, and he should be full
of inclination in matters concerning the Self. Yes, he is not
completely without inclination (spruha).
The guru should be someone who does not want anything;
he should have no desire for money or sex. Then there is no
problem with massaging his legs or head. You can serve him in
that way.
On the path of liberation, one’s guru should be an
Atmagnani (Self-realized). It is because of the absence of such
Self-realized gurus that everything is ruined.
When you are in harmony at home, you have found a guru
So I did not listen to anyone when it came to gurus because
I did not see any benefit in having one. I did not see any glow on
their faces. Show me five people who have improved because of
a guru. Show me someone in whom the weaknesses of anger,
pride, deceit and greed have gone away, or in whom separation
because of differences of opinions have been reduced because of
a guru.
Questioner: How capable are we in recognizing whether
we have found our true guru?
Dadashri: When separation due to differences of opinion