GIRL POWER NOVEMBER 2013 | Page 13

Dating 101 How do I make him love me? I have a big crush on this guy in a grade higher than me • We don’t have any classes together, but we are both in band and on the school paper. I know I love him because I just can’t get him off of my mind. At a party I confessed my true feelings and he told me he liked me too - a friend. He said he just wanted us to be friends right now. I really, really want to be with him, how do I make him love me? You are suffering from a killer one-sided crush, also known as “unrequited love,” and there isn’t much you can do to change it into a relationship. I’ll be blunt.You can not make somebody love you.You can’t even make them like you. There are no magic spells or secret tricks that will make a person suddenly feel for you the way you feel for them. Love doesn’t work like that. Love, when it is real and returned, is one of the most amazing feelings you will ever experience. Although it is hard to accept that this person doesn’t return your feelings, it may help you to know that the pain you now feel will be erased from your heart when you find someone who does love you back. Now back to the issue at hand, coping with your current crush. Since he has made his feelings for you clear, namely that he wants to be friends, you really only have once choice.You have to honor his feelings and wishes.You do however have options as to exactly how you handle the “friendship situation.”