Generation Gap
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A son tells his father that he is tired of listening to his constant
nagging and that he wants his share of the inheritance. The father
in turn tells him that he will not give a single penny of his hard-
earned money to him because he had been a constant source of
grief for him. The son tells his father that the wealth belonged to
his grandfather and that he will take him to court for his share.
This proves that the children are not really yours.
(P.302)
If a father insults his son and fights with him for an hour,
what will the son do? The son will challenge his father’s authority.
He may even take his father to court over issues regarding his
inheritance. Will the father still worry about his son then? His
worries will cease once his attachment for his son leaves. Anxieties
and troubles occur to those who have attachment.
(P.305)
If a man's brother-in-law were ill in the hospital, he would
visit him at least a dozen times, whereas if his own father were ill,
he would probably only see him a couple of times. Who influences
this kind of behavior in him? His wife pressures him into seeing
her brother. She turns the ‘key’ and he becomes oblivious to
everything else. The wives influence this whole world. (P.307)
A son is generally quite good as long as he does not meet
his ‘guru’ (the wife). But it is inevitable; he is bound to meet her,
whether she is Indian or otherwise, and once this happens, the
control will no longer be in the hands of the parents. So the parents
should manage the reins properly, and let go where necessary.
(P.307)
Questioner : If we hated someone in our past life, will we
have to meet the same individual in this life to repay the debt?
Dadashri : Not necessarily. Debts are not paid off in that
way. When you bind vengeance, you create raag-dwesh from
within. If you had animosity towards your son in this life, you may