Generation Gap
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solution: the knowledge that ‘I am the pure Soul’ and everything
else is vyavasthit; scientific circumstantial evidence.
(P.229)
After your son marries, it will not help you to start any conflict
with his wife. Therefore you must be cautious from the very start.
If you all live together, it will cause friction, which will make
everyone’s life miserable. If you want your children’s love, let
them live their own life. Your love for each other will grow if you
remain apart. When you all live together, your son will obviously
side with his wife and not pay attention to what you say. Then
your love for each other will dwindle. When your daughter-in-
law complains about you to your son, and he sympathizes with
her, you will be hurt and all the domestic problems will begin. It is
better to be happy and live away from each other.
(P. 234)
Questioner : I miss my children who live abroad and keep
worrying about them.
Dadashri : The children are having a great time abroad.
They do not even think about their mother and here the mother
worries about them.
Questioner : The children keep writing to us, asking us to
come and live with them abroad.
Dadashri : Yes, but is it in your hands to go? What is
wrong with letting things be the way they are? You should live
your own life and let them live theirs. Just because you gave birth
to them, does it mean they are yours? If they were yours, they
would be with you even after death. But, is that possible? (P.235)
There may be fifty people living in the house, but because
you cannot understand their individual innate nature (prakruti),
you interfere with them. Should you not recognize the differences
in their individual nature?