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ego. The day you stop arguing and nagging your children, they
will begin to improve. It is because your words do not come out
right that they get aggravated. They do not embrace your words,
but simply throw them back at you. You have to fulfill your duties
as a parent and provide for them, but you cannot say anything to
them. There is no benefit in you telling them anything. Are you
able to come to this conclusion? Now they are all grown up, it is
not as if they are going to fall down the stairs. Why are you
compromising your spiritual progress? It is not worth expending
all your efforts on your children. Instead of fighting with your
children, the results would be better if you were to remain silent.
By fighting, your peace of mind as well as your children’s will be
lost.
(P.226)
The children call you bad names and you call them bad
names. This creates an atmosphere of hostility, which can flare up
at any time. So you just have to change your opinion by telling
yourself, ‘after all he is a good person’.
(P.228)
Questioner : How should we behave with children when
there is a conflict?
Dadashri : You should not feel any attachment or
abhorrence towards them. If they damage or spoil things, you
should not have negative feelings towards them. See them as pure
Souls. Your troubles will end if you do not have any attachment or
abhorrence towards them. And this Gnan is such that you will not
have any attachment or abhorrence
(P.228)
If your mind becomes troubled, it is your own fault. No
one else is responsible. You should understand that the fault is
yours and it occurred because you did not know how to look at
the other person. You must destroy this fault. You should only
look at the pure Soul within that person. I have given you the