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44 Generation Gap ego. The day you stop arguing and nagging your children, they will begin to improve. It is because your words do not come out right that they get aggravated. They do not embrace your words, but simply throw them back at you. You have to fulfill your duties as a parent and provide for them, but you cannot say anything to them. There is no benefit in you telling them anything. Are you able to come to this conclusion? Now they are all grown up, it is not as if they are going to fall down the stairs. Why are you compromising your spiritual progress? It is not worth expending all your efforts on your children. Instead of fighting with your children, the results would be better if you were to remain silent. By fighting, your peace of mind as well as your children’s will be lost. (P.226) The children call you bad names and you call them bad names. This creates an atmosphere of hostility, which can flare up at any time. So you just have to change your opinion by telling yourself, ‘after all he is a good person’. (P.228) Questioner : How should we behave with children when there is a conflict? Dadashri : You should not feel any attachment or abhorrence towards them. If they damage or spoil things, you should not have negative feelings towards them. See them as pure Souls. Your troubles will end if you do not have any attachment or abhorrence towards them. And this Gnan is such that you will not have any attachment or abhorrence (P.228) If your mind becomes troubled, it is your own fault. No one else is responsible. You should understand that the fault is yours and it occurred because you did not know how to look at the other person. You must destroy this fault. You should only look at the pure Soul within that person. I have given you the