Game Changers: The Conscious Culture Volume 1 Issue 6 | Page 31

Infidelity The Big Pink Elephant
Woman on Woman crime.
The silent family exterminator.
The silent epidemic.
Infidelity the big pink elephant in
the room that everyone is walk-
ing around.
Why have we decided to be
silent about the number one killer
of a woman's self esteem, drive,
spirit and family?
Is it because WOMEN are the
problem??
Have you ever watched a woman
go through the devastating affects
of infidelity. I have!!!! ME!!!!!!
It's like a spiritual disease killing
her from the inside out. She can't
eat. She can't sleep. She can't
even think. Let's not leave out
the constant worrying along with
the bickering, begging and cover-
ing up. Who wants their family
and friends to know that the fairy
tale has become a nightmare!!!!
The shame and embarrassment
puts her in her own private
prison. A slow silent death of her
spirit.
Nothing is a bigger distraction
to a woman than the
other woman.
We run around blam-
ing men. Saying men
are no good and all
men are dogs. The
problem is who are
they being dogs with
and who's raising
these dogs??? Exact-
ly one of us!!!!! An-
other woman!!!!!!!!
When did it become
fashionable to be the
other woman?? When
did it become ok to
sleep with someone
else's man?
How did we become
the prey of a predator
with the same face.
Why are we choos-
ing to consciously
destroy another wom-
an's family and feel
comfortable saying,
"it's not my problem,
he's the married one,
NOT ME." That still
makes you a home-
wrecker!!
Infidelity changes
the course of so many
lives. It changes a
child's destiny. It
changes the way a young girl
will look at a man
when she becomes
a woman. It will
affect her ability to
choose effectively.
It will be a major
influence on what
she thinks a man
should be. How do
you think she will
choose a decent
man if she saw her
daddy cheat? To a
little girl, a father
is the first man she
will love. He's the
first man she thinks is everything.
He's the man she will model her
choices after when she chooses a
man. How will she know what a
red flag is when all she's experi-
enced were red flags that her dad
taught her were normal. How is
she supposed to spot disrespect
when all she's seen is disrespect
for her mother? Our children are
growing up in a society where
women are no longer concerned
about morals, values or digni-
ty. Not because they don't care,
they just don't know any better
because for years infidelity has
been the big pink elephant in the
room. Ladies, we are a major
factor in a young girl's or boy's
life. If you come in to their life
by way of the other woman, the
lesson you're teaching is that it's
ok to be second. It's ok to share a
man. It's ok to disrupt a house-
hold. It's ok to abuse another
woman as long as you get the
man. What about our sons??
They go out into the world
as wrecking-balls to women.
Daddy left mommy for another
woman, so why should I even
get married? I can just be a baby
daddy. You got the man, but left
his son to be the man of a house
before he's even been taught to
be a man period. Now the cycle
will continue. He will grow up
lying, cheating and leaving all
because we as women could not
say no to another woman's hus-
band. It's so much deeper than
the fact that you got the man.
The destruction you left behind
will last for generations.
Ladies we have to open our eyes
to this horrible epidemic and do
better. It's not going to change
until we change it!!!!!!! Cheating
is a form of abuse and if you are
knowingly sleeping with some-
one else's husband, boyfriend or
fiancé you are an abuser. You
think you're not accountable for
the mess, but you are. You are
just as much of the problem as
the man; maybe even more. Not
caring is not even supposed to
be in our DNA as a woman. We
have the power to change the
world by simply honoring, guard-
ing and respecting each other's
RELATIONSHIPS!!!!!!! By just
not sleeping with someone else's
man.
Are we going to keep passing the
buck, or are we going to come
together in love? Love for each
other. Love for the children
and most importantly love for
ourselves.
Ladies, why will men change
if we are rewarding their bad
behavior by giving them options
and fighting each other? Why
will they change if WE allow
them to have their cake and eat
it too? Why would they respect
us if we don't even respect each
other or ourselves? Women we
are our own worst nightmare.
Exterminating our own families.
Infidelity is a disease and wom-
en are the antidote. When will
we administer the cure?
No more blame game it's time for
a major change and the name of
the game is ACCOUNTABILI-
TY!!!
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