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Written by Geraldine Andre
In this article, you will explore the mind of a Christian
couple that reveal their thought processes they
encountered while dating, and during their 12-
year marriage thus far. The article is compiled from a
Christian perspective and is geared towards audiences
of faith or those with an open mind.
Upon interviewing the couple, the question
was posed to the husband, can a man truly
lead a Christian family without having a
spiritual vision, he answered, “No, a man
cannot lead his wife nor family spiritually if he
himself knows not where he is going or the
path to take”. His wife answers the same
question concerning being led spiritually by a
man. “A godly woman has no problem
submitting in love to her helpmate as long as
she is confident that her mate has a solid
relationship with Christ. A sober minded man
with God, goals and grind can lead her and
she will gladly follow."
Many women feel that they do not know much
about marriage, men, or what to look for in a
spouse or a serious romantic
relationship. They may receive advice to look
for a nice Christian guy. However, the
question that comes to mind is, is a man being
a nice Christian guy, enough?
Husband: “Being a nice Christian guy is not
enough to determine if a man is relationship
material or not. A heartfelt relationship
requires more than just a spiritual component
to thrive. A man proclaiming he is a Christian,
defines him to be a believer. However, it does
not give the full picture as to who the man is
as an individual outside of the matters of the
spiritual realm. Often times we see spiritual
men that are unable to navigate through the
natural world that we live in, each and every
day”.
His wife answers the same questions and
explains,
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Wife: “Being a nice Christian guy is not an
enough qualification for a mate. Being nice
compares to, having ‘potential’. Unfortunately,
the grave is filled with unused and neglected
potential. What many Christian women want, is a
nice Godly man that continually strives to
become the best version of himself that he can
achieve. Christian women desire for a man to be
in tune with the Lord and persevere into all that
God has ordained for him to be”.
When considering a man as a potential spouse,
Women need to have a clear understanding of
his spiritual vision. The husband is posed the
question, what are some of the ways a
man should prepare and plan to lead his (future)
wife spiritually? And or his (future) children
spiritually?
Husband: “It is imperative for a
Christian man to maintain a solid foundation in
his spiritual life which consists of having
discernment, wisdom, patience, and
understanding. Those qualities enable a man to
successfully lead his wife and children in the
spiritual matters of his family”.
Wife: “A man preparing to lead his own family
should surround himself with positive, Christian
married men who can deposit wisdom, truth and
Godly counsel pertaining marriage and raising
Godly children. A man who truly understands the
gospel—and what Christ did for him—will be
passionate about His relationship with Christ.
This means he does more than just go to
church. He communicates about the gospel
passionately and lives out what he believes”.
The husband is then asked, how did being
a Christian impact your decisions when it
came to dating?
Husband: “A Christian man tends to date
with a purpose and not waste time. If during
a relationship, it appears that marriage is
no longer a wise option, it then becomes a
clear sign that the relationship is coming to
an end. As a Christian man, dating means,
courting one woman at a
time. Therefore, all time and efforts are
spent with one individual woman verses
dividing it among several"
A man that lives on
purpose, Lives on
Purpose
It is believed that, A potential husband
should be passionate about his relationship
with Christ and passionate about making
Christ known each and every day. What are
some of the ways to identify if a man is
living his life with a sense of purpose?
Husband: “a man living with a sense of
purpose should have clearly defined goals
and display day to
day efforts to achieve those set goals. A
purpose driven life should display
intentional living. The results of a man’s
daily routines and activities will display if he
is living intentionally; intentionally loving,
intentionally giving, intentionally setting
goals or intentionally achieving them. A
man that lives on purpose, lives on
purpose”