If you have been chosen as the best man then you must hold a special place in the groom’s heart. Keep that in mind and take your responsibilities seriously. You can help ensure the wedding goes smoother. Below is a list of things commonly and traditionally carried out by the best man.
Before The Ceremony
•Plan and execute a bachelor party. Share the cost with the groomsmen.
•Assists in getting other groomsmen and ushers in tux fitting
•Get fitted and pay for wedding attire. Often times you will be afforded the opportunity to put a deposit down and pay the remaining balance when you pick up the tux.
•Prepare a toast/speech to be given at the reception. The speech can be funny or serious, but most importantly must be genuine and from the heart. All eyes will be on you, so plan ahead and don’t wing it.
•Help the groom confrm plan arrangements for the wedding and honeymoon. Sometimes it is good to have an extra person there to double check things so nothing gets forgotten.
•Attend any rehearsals that are held.
•Picks up the groom’s formal wear for the wedding. A wedding is hectic and something as
Being chosen to be a bridesmaid is an honor and should be treated as so. The bride has chosen to entrust you to become a part of her special day; it is your responsibility to help make it as special as she deserves. Some brides will delegate jobs where others may have their maid (or matron) of honor delegate the jobs. Lastly, some brides may not feel incredibly comfortable asking for help so it is up to the bridal party to step up and offer.
If you are part of the bridal party and are wondering what if anything you should do, I suggest asking yourself the following: If it was my wedding what things would need to be accomplished? I assure you that nearly everything you come up with is something you could possibly assist the bride with. If you are struggling on how you can help, use the list below to get you started.
•Help with invitations
•Help creating centerpieces
•Help with set up
simple as picking up his suit when you pick up your own can save time and stress for the groom
During The Ceremony
•If a ring bearer isn’t being used then you will be in charge of the wedding ring. Obviously the importance of this job is evident; be responsible.
•Oversee that the ushers are doing what they need to be doing.
•Check that the groomsmen boutonnieres are attached properly on the left with the stem down.
During The Reception
•Give your toast
•You will be asked to sign as a witness on the wedding certificate
•It is custom to dance with the bride and maid of honor during the reception.
•Helps organize people for photos. The photographer should have experience at getting people together. However, that does not mean it is easy. Aiding the camera man will relieve stress from him and help ensure that wedding couple gets all the wonderful shots they deserve.
After The Reception
•Help clean up
•Return the groom’s wedding attire with your own. The honeymoon is beginning and the groom may not be able (or may just not want) to return his own tux.
•Help distributing favors
•Help researching things like the venue
•Help with seating guests
•Misc. errands (Ask the bride if there is anything else she needs help with)
•Help cleaning up after the event
•Housesit while they are on honeymoon
•Help the bride get the pictures she wants (Just paying attention to the photographer can help make it easier; it helps you be aware when you are needed in the pictures)
Lastly, as a bridesmaid and a part of the wedding ALWAYS remember you are a reflection on the event and act accordingly. Be happy, helpful, sincere, and help ease the stress of the bride.
Remember this list just covers the basics. If the bride needs more, don't hesitate to help.
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