Learn to be comfortable in yourself
Confidence comes from embracing the way you look, act, and speak. Be honest, show the real you, and accept your flaws. Another woman I know was worried her accent was too strong. Instead of hiding it, she leaned into it and even joked about it on dates. What she thought was a flaw became part of what her partner loved most about her.
Be prepared
When you look good on the outside, you feel good on the inside—and that confidence shines through. I worked with a man who didn’t believe dressing up mattered until he showed up sharp for one date. The woman told him, “You dress very nice.” That moment completely changed how he approached every date afterward.
Be clear with what you want and need
Don’t be afraid to say what kind of relationship you’re looking for. One of my clients who spent years in casual relationships because he was afraid of scaring women off by saying he wanted something serious. Once he started being upfront, he found women who were on the same page, and one of them became his wife.
Be a good communicator
Ask questions and listen—really listen. Relating with your own experiences makes conversations natural and engaging and you form a connection together. I was able to give another woman that I worked for some feedback from a date that she talked about herself the entire time on the date. After I let her know that, she started asking more questions when she met someone, and suddenly her dates became more fun, balanced, and memorable.